We’ve all been there. That sinking feeling in your stomach when you realize that your hard work didn’t pay off, and you didn’t get the promotion or raise you were hoping for. Or maybe you did get the promotion, but it’s not what you wanted, and now you’re stuck in a job that’s not right for you. Disappointment is a part of life, but it can be especially difficult to deal with when it comes at work.
In this blog post, I will discuss how to handle disappointment at work and what to do if you don’t take it well. I will also provide tips on overcoming disappointment and moving on from it!
First of all, it’s important to understand that disappointment is normal. We all have experienced it at some point in our lives, and it’s not wrong to do so. It’s okay to feel disappointed, but what’s not okay is to let that disappointment turn into resentment or bitterness. Take a step back and try to view the conflict from your boss’s or coworkers’ perspectives if you’re feeling angry or resentful towards them. Is there a piece you might be missing?
At the very least, work to release the resentment otherwise you’ll always see them through that lens. That’s when you lose ground because as those feelings grow your control over it shrinks. You are ripe for an inappropriate comment…or perhaps gesture to come flying out from your vicinity!
So, stop dwelling on your disappointments because dwelling on them does not change the person or situation. If you get so preoccupied with thinking about a situation that does not meet your needs, you are likely creating unnecessary stress. Thinking does not change a negative situation, but it will change how you feel, and not always for the better! When you catch yourself thinking negatively, redirect and focus on positive solutions.
Always be looking to find ways to regain control of your thoughts. This is the first step to making that leap from feeling out of control to being more in control of your life.
Disappointment is personal, so it’s important to remember that everyone deals with it differently. Some people may be able to brush it off quickly, while others may need some time to process their feelings. Nevertheless, you are feeling disappointed for a reason. The more you can uncover why you’re feeling it, the better off you’ll be in dealing with it.
And, as for dealing with disappointment, here are a few tips that may help:
-Talk to someone you trust about what you’re feeling. It can be helpful to talk to someone who will understand and can offer practical advice.
-Identify your main goals and focus on them. That means you aren’t focused on everything; you’re focused on the important things. When you are chasing everything, it’s easy to forget your long-term goals.
-Take some time for yourself. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, take a step back and focus on taking care of yourself. This may mean taking a few days off from work or just taking some time each day to do something that makes you happy.
-Find a positive role model. Sometimes it helps to look to others who have dealt with disappointment successfully for inspiration. Find someone whose career path you admire and see how they overcame setbacks.
-Recognize that you were doing your best at the time. It’s water under the bridge now, so there’s nothing you can do to change it. What matters is what you accomplish as a result of it.
-Use this time to reflect on everything you’ve learned from your mistake. Consider what you would do the next time differently or how you could improve it somehow.
-Ask yourself, “Okay, what do I want instead?” you set yourself on a path to focusing on the future and not staying mired in the past.
Hopefully, these tips will help guide you the next time you feel disappointed at work. Remember, it’s normal to feel disappointed with what has happened, but don’t let it ruin what could happen next!
Until the next time, here’s wishing you the Clarity (and the empowering beliefs) you deserve!
Hey there! Thank you so much for reading my blog post. I hope that it was helpful for you. If you have any questions or comments, please feel free to contact me. I would love to hear from you! 🙂 Thanks again!
-Debbie Peterson, Keynote Speaker and Coach for professional women & emerging leaders who want to create more success in their careers with less sacrifice to their life!